After being married for 9 years, my husband and I discovered in 2021 that he was being sued for child support. This revelation stemmed from an affair he had shortly after our marriage, which almost led to the end of our relationship. However, we sought counselling together and agreed to certain conditions for me to stay in the marriage.
One of these conditions was that my husband would take on a second job to cover his child support payments without affecting our household budget. Additionally, I made it clear that I had no intention of having any relationship with the child resulting from his affair. Over the past few years, my husband has been getting to know his child, but recently, he informed me of some “baby mamma drama.”
It turns out that his affair partner is set to self-surrender in May for an 8-month incarceration. My husband felt the need to take custody of the child during this time to prevent them from going to live with their grandparents on the opposite coast. The child, who is attached to their current surroundings, does not want to change schools or be far away from their friends, dad, and mom (who will be incarcerated locally).
Upon hearing this news, I left the house and returned with an apartment guide for our area, indicating my stance on the situation. My husband questioned if I was serious, to which I affirmed that my feelings remained unchanged from three years ago. Despite his plea that the circumstances were exceptional, I reiterated that I had no interest in caring for his child and offered an amicable divorce if he chose to take custody.
I made it clear that I stood firm in my decision and that I would not be responsible for someone else’s child.
Source: Brightside
