She started her story telling about the tough family relations.
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A woman recently shared her complicated story in a Reddit community. She started with some background to better understand further circumstances, ” I’m 29, English, and I live in Italy with my fiancé Marco, 37, Italian, and our daughter, 5 months old, Willow. I moved to Italy after graduating medical school, where I met Marco, and now I’m a resident in one of the hospitals.
My father left my mum and me, and has been very inconsistent. He married Tammy when I was young, and she has never liked me. She was also never able to have kids.
So when I gave birth my mum’s side of the family came over to visit and meet Willow and look after both of us. Nothing from my dad or Tammy.”
The stepmother made a shocking revelation when she finally came to visit.
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“So two weeks ago they turn up unannounced claiming to be ‘in the area on holiday’ and wanted to meet Willow. She was getting a bit fussy, and she was combination fed, but as I was home I grabbed a cover and let her latch onto me.
Tammy says the breastfeeding will have to stop soon, I’m confused and ask her why, and she said it couldn’t be kept up when Willow is with them. Now I’m even more confused and I ask what is she on about. She shows me photos of a baby room and says that we should split custody of Willow and not to worry, and she has everything set up already.”
The stepmother’s motives were completely outrageous.
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“I just stare at her, but she carries on. Claiming that the age gap between myself and Marco is unhealthy for a child to grow up with, saying it was obvious I needed help, and she was happy to, and mostly that I was obviously more bothered about working than staying home with my baby, so I should just let her have Willow. But obviously she wasn’t able to breastfeed, so we would have to stop that now.
I tell her she can’t be serious and think I’m giving her my baby, and she tells me to calm down, she’s not asking for full custody, but she could provide a much calmer and stabler home and that I could always visit. She said it’s what she deserves.”
The new parents’ reaction was entirely expected.
“Marco pushed everyone out and made sure Willow and I were alright. Since then I’ve been really weirded out and been getting texts from my father saying I need to let Tammy prove herself as a good caregiver. And Tammy has been sending loads of photos of the nursery she has made.
Just to add so people don’t get confused. I’m in Italy but Tammy isn’t. They had flown over here. My dad isn’t actually on my birth certificate so I think that limits his ‘grandparents rights’ claim, my mum is our nominated guardian for Willow if anything happens to us it’s written in a will, and Willow goes to the daycare in the hospital we both work at.”
Almost all people in comments suggested to make all possible actions for safety of her family.
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- Seriously?! That’s a crazy you need to get as far away from as possible. She hasn’t done anything to warrant a protection order, but get prepared for more. © Mazresk / Reddit
- Contact the police where she lives. And social services there too. And a lawyer — you need to put it on record now that should anything happen to you they do not get custody (or access, if possible) to your child. © PurpleFirebird / Reddit
- Do reach out to the appropriate authorities, inform daycare / babysitters that no one else than you or your husband can pick up your kiddo, no exceptions! And install security cameras. This is insane. © alokasia / Reddit
Starting a new relationship can be hard for everyone in the family. It can be tough to get along with a new partner, and communicating with an ex can make things even more complicated. Everyone needs to be patient and understanding to make it work.
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